January 1st, 2017
Rev. Laura Bogle
Reading:
The Way by Edwin Muir
Friend, I have lost the way.
__The way leads on.
Is there another way?
__The way is one.
I must retrace the track.
__It's lost and gone.
Back, I must travel back!
__None goes there, none.
Then I'll make here my place --
__The road runs on --
Stand still and set my face-
__The road leaps on.
Stay here, forever stay.
__None stays here, none.
I cannot find the way.
__The way leads on.
Oh, places I have passed!
_That journey's done.
And what will come at last?
__The way leads on.
This last week I’ve spent some
time with my partner’s family up in Indiana.
It was cold up there!
One day we took the two
year old twins for a walk, we bundled them up and we put their little knit
mittens. And put them up on our backs and off we went.
Mittens on two year olds is a
gamble if they aren’t somehow attached.
And sure enough when we got back to the house we realized that each one
of them had lost one of their mittens somewhere along the way. Mittens that their Meemaw, whose house we
were staying at, had very lovingly knit just
for them. Oh dear.
The day of our departure I
decided that I’d go out and look along the road we had walked down, see if I
could find those mittens. And so I
did. It had snowed a tiny bit by then
and I thought, those white mittens won’t stand out, I’ll never see them. But I walked and I looked.
And just when I thought there’s
no way I’d find them, there was one of them.
It gave me hope so I kept walking, and pretty soon there was the other
one! I was so proud and I brought them
back to be reunited with their pair.
If only it were so easy to cope
with other changes and loss in life. To
simply retrace our steps and go back to where we were, and all will be restored
as it was.
Finding the lost mittens helped
me feel like I could in some way control the chaos and unpredictability of
life. You see, this week was also the
first holiday time we spent in Indiana without my partner's beloved step-father, Papa to our girls, who died in May of this year. We did some of the same things as we have
always done at the holidays. But nothing
felt quite the same. The underlying
absence of this person changed it all. It
wasn’t just that we are sad that Roland is gone and miss him, which is of
course very true. Roland’s absence also
has changed us.
The family dynamic is different. What we do together is different. Our conversations are different without him.
I don’t always deal quickly or
easily with change, even really good changes.
It takes me time to adjust.
Usually I have to have a period of pretending things aren’t really that
different, or a time of trying to make things stay the same. That never feels very good, because it is not
dealing with reality, and a tension builds—a tension between the way I wish
things were and the way things actually are.
Being a parent of young children has challenged me more than anything
else to pay attention to and accept change.
For instance, right now I really don’t want to admit that the twins are
transitioning out of their daily afternoon nap.
Just like some of us really don’t want to admit that in about three
weeks a different kind of transition will be happening in the White House.
The Buddhist teacher Pema Chodron
says that “When we resist change, it’s called suffering. But when we can
completely let go and not struggle against it, when we can embrace the
groundlessness of our situation and relax into it’s dynamic quality, that’s
called enlightenment.”
“When we resist change, it’s
called suffering.”
Pair that wisdom with the words
of ancient Greek philosopher, Heraklietos, “Change alone is unchanging.” No wonder he was known as the weeping philosopher!
2017, like every year before it,
promises change. That is all we can count on.
Perhaps 2017 promises even more change than other years. It is a time of great instability and
shifting ground in our world and our country.
We feel it in our hearts, in our families, in our communities.
There are some changes ahead that
I really, really, really don’t want to accept; that I don’t want to
normalize.
Today I want to remind us that accepting
a change does not mean approving of it or normalizing it. Accepting a change does not mean liking it,
or staying silent about the pain it causes you.
Accepting a change does not mean letting it control you.
This year I want to be challenged
by Pema Chodron’s words to embrace groundlessness and relax into its dynamic
quality. A dynamic means there is a back
and forth – that change does not just move in one direction.
We can predict some changes will
come that we won’t like, that we wish weren’t happening, but more will
follow. Take heart in the lyrics of Sam
Cooke—
“There been times that I thought
I couldn't last for long
But now I think I'm able to carry on
It's been a long, a long time coming
But I know a change gon' come, oh yes it will”
But now I think I'm able to carry on
It's been a long, a long time coming
But I know a change gon' come, oh yes it will”
Take heart in the lyrics of Bob
Dylan:
“The slowest now
Will later be fast
As the present now
Will later be past
The order is rapidly fading
And the first one now will later be last
Cause the times they are a-changing “
Will later be fast
As the present now
Will later be past
The order is rapidly fading
And the first one now will later be last
Cause the times they are a-changing “
We can count on the fact that
there will be change.
It is up to us, the human
community, with the help of that Power which is greater than any one of us, to
face the changes that come, to move forward through them and to nurture more change
that brings new life and love into this world.
You are invited now to
participate in our ritual of letting go and opening up for the new year.
What in your life would you like
to release, to let go of, or to move towards acceptance of? You are invited to write these on your piece
of paper and then when you are ready come forward to release them into the bowl
of water on the table.
Set one or two intentions: What would you like to make more room for in
this coming year? What change would you
like to nurture—either in yourself or in your community? How will you open to the gifts of your life,
even in times of great change? You are
invited to take a marker and write these directly on our table cloth here. Words, pictures, and symbols all are
fine.
With serenity, we release what is
written here into the service of health and growth in 2017.
The Way the Leads On
With courage, we set these
intentions written here in the service of health and growth in 2017.
The Way Leads On
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